Importance of Friendship

As @winelibrarian wrote last week, it’s #friendshipfebruary! We’re embarking on a week-long quest to highlight the most important love of all: the love between two friends. Romantic love may come and go throughout your life, but once you find that one, irreplaceable friend, you are set. Does that sound hokey? I feel like I sound like a greeting card. Maybe I’m just overflowing with good feelings today.

When I first met Winey, I never expected us to become as close as we have. It’s funny how life works out, isn’t it? She’s become my very best and most supportive friend in the entire world. I don’t know if I’ve ever had a best friend before, and to be honest, I’m not the best at keeping friends. Any friend I’d made in the past already had a best friend or they met someone better along the way. So I just kind of faded into the background.

I’m not always the easiest person to get along with. Past friends have accused me of being secretive, aloof, and withdrawn. I never intended to be. It’s just never been easy for me to openly accept someone into my life and share things with them. I’ve always worried that people didn’t care about my feelings, so why should I share them? Maybe if I had been more trusting, more willing to let others in, I might have been able to keep the friends I made earlier in my life. Or maybe they were too busy sharing things with people closer to them that it wouldn’t have mattered anyway.

But I never worried that Winey would judge me for the way I felt about things. I can’t ever remember a time I felt like I couldn’t share something with her. Maybe I was just waiting to find the friend I really clicked with before I could stop being just someone’s acquaintance and really be someone’s friend. Either way, I am so thankful to have her in my life. She is the most amazing person I have ever known and I don’t know what I would do without her.

I feel like it’s so important to have friends like Winey in your life. Ones who will let you make mistakes (and probably roll their eyes while you do it), but instead of saying “I told you so” while you are sobbing in a bathroom in a strange city, they will give you all of the love and support you need. These aren’t the kind of friendships that you can find. They find you. Like I said, I never expected Winey and I to become so close; I seriously expected her to get along much better with someone else, but life almost never works out the way you expect it to.

Do you have the best friendship ever? Share it with us either here or on Twitter using the #friendshipfebruary hashtag!

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7 Responses to “Importance of Friendship”

  1. Hardin Reddy says:

    A very wise boss once told me the four words you should never say are “I told you so.” Wish I had always taken his advice.

  2. John says:

    So, if I get you right, Homantic Love > Romantic Love.

    Got it.

    And, truly, I love your & winey’s relationship . . . it’s obvious that you’re both much better off when one is present in the other’s life. I don’t mean that you’re the same — you’re far different, but Winey is a better person when she has her Bitchy. And Bitchy is a better person when she has her Winey.